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My name is AniLiberal Rebel is my alter ego.

I live in London and love this city. In fact, I’m 128 years old and only because of my Caucasian genes I look forever young 😉 I don’t enjoy the taste of alcohol, but I can’t imagine my life without chocolate. I genuinely care about having life full of uninhibited laugh, irony and comedy. I’m a big individualist and a deep introvert, who trust her inner intuition. I obsessively dedicate myself to introspections and philosophical considerations about the world around me, by constantly questioning my own and other people’s beliefs. I’m driven by close, honest and meaningful conversations with valuable individuals. I am satisfied with living a purposeful and conscious life, despite constant challenges that I’m struggling with. I practice regularly mindfulness. Besides the mind, my other passion is dancing Kizomba and Urban Kiz.

My life maxim is:

“Take the risk of thinking for yourself, much more happiness, truth, beauty, and wisdom will come to you that way”

(Christopher Hitchens)

Blog

This blog was created from the need to question the reality and civilization around me, created by human beings. Views, ideas and values presented here are the result of my 9-years’ experience, psychotherapy, mentoring, coaching, observations, reflection and contemplating. However, first and foremost is my strenuous effort and hard work on myself and also milestone meetings with wise people. I’m a psychologist, by birth 😉 Although, my interest in human beings is defined in my interdisciplinary approach. In my case, this means combining fields such as sociology, philosophy, anthropology, logic, history, neurology, linguistics, religion, economy, politics etc.

To rebel is my lifestyle and foundation of my blog. Rebellion incorporates values such as freedom, authenticity, awareness, independent thinking and courage.

‘I rebel, therefore I exist’

(Albert Camus)

My mission

My life mission is to create emotionally healthy, aware and fulfilled society. The most important part of this goal is in the knowledgeable upbringing of a new generation, since:

‘It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men’

(Frederick Douglas)

However, to be able to actualize this, we need first emotionally healthy and fulfilled adults.

The idea underpinning my mission is that adulthood to a large and unimaginable extent is determined by our childhood and is a consequence of our early experiences in the family, at school and culture where we grew up. Certainly, childhood was for many of us full of carefree times and happy memories, when we have been surrounded by love, care and attention from our carers. However, despite the best intentions of our parents, part of our child’s needs have not been met; many of us have experienced criticising, physical or emotional abandonment and humiliation. Sadly, some of us were brought up in the atmosphere of fear, duty, shame and guilt.

Ironically, we spend our whole life in the ignorance without being aware how our messed up childhood impacts our current life. If our child’s needs were not met, our adult life will be focused on compensating them, usually in an unhealthy way. And even worse, we too often thoughtlessly transfer the same mistakes and schemas on our children. Whatever our childhood was, we are not to blame at all. Yet, as mature adults we are responsible for honestly reviewing our past, healing our wounds and rebuilding kind relationship with ourselves.

The world would be a much beautiful place with happier people, if we adults understood, how big a responsibility we hold for every vulnerable child we decide to bring to the earth. We should do everything in our power to be good enough parents who will raise an emotionally healthy and resilient child. It’s not about perfection, it’s about being good enough.

In my imaginable ideal world we will be more likely to lead a happy, fulfilling and meaningful existence. Because a satisfied person is not interested in complaining, harming others, violence and wars. A happy person is not thirsty for authoritative and greedy power, is not interested in getting rich at the expense of others or destroying the environment. An individual who likes himself/herself and is satisfied with his life is not filled with jealousy, bitterness, frustration or vengeance. Because fulfilled people have high self-esteem, truly love themselves and others, acquire skills to build healthy and intimate relationships, work in a job that gives them meaning or pleasure, their emotions and mind cooperate together, they are mentally liberated from dependency and fear from authority, are acquainted with their values, needs and are capable to meet them. They build resilience and are ready to face life difficulties.